Facade, I wish had something deep to say about this word like how it’s the human theatre curtain (or something else along those lines) but I don’t. The reason that I wish I had a deep way to describe it is because of how much I feel that I can relate to it. We’ve all seen it, we’ve been a part of it and it’s completely normal.
I’ve found myself saying things and acting in ways that weren’t anything like me and I couldn’t even realise it, even when it was pointed out in front of my face. I remember having someone ask me ‘why do you always change when you’re around ***?’ I couldn’t believe that I was asked that but when I think about it, it was like I wanted to be accepted by everyone so I always changed depending on who I was around.
I don’t think facades are necessarily a bad thing, it sometimes helps us get things that we want like a woman because we pretend to be confident around them despite the fair of not interesting her. It can help with getting friends or just making you more confident with a situation that you’re not used to.
Living behind the façade is the true problem because then it becomes easy to put on a face for situations that you have trouble with without providing an actual answer. It’s what can push confidence into arrogance and sometimes it’s painfully transparent.
In a way a façade is like a tool, like training wheels to help you get more comfortable with a situation but after that it’s best to shed it, something that I’m learning more every day.
Daily Prompt – Facade
Once again, I have another song for you and this might be one of the best ones that I’ve picked EVER! (I’ve only being doing this for 8 weeks so that shows how much I rate this choice) anyway the song is ‘Wanna Be Cool’ by Donnie Trumpet and the Social Experiment, it also features Big Sean, Jeremih and KYLE.
The song is message which promotes just being yourself and whilst it sounds cheesy, as humans that’s something that we all owe ourselves. The second verse is the stand out verse for me since it points out that trying to model yourself to look good to others is irrelevant because in the bigger picture no one cares. At the end of the day everybody has their own personality and what matters is that each person is comfortable with themselves.
Favourite line(s): I don’t wanna be you, I just wanna be me, I don’t wanna be cool, I just wanna be me.
I can’t speak for everyone when I say this, but people have to deal with other people trying to force them to be something that they’re not just because the other person has an image in their head of what said person should be. Really anyone dealing with this should turn around to the person trying to mould them and tell them to fuck off but it’s not always that easy. This is also relevant to a lot of young people who are always trying to follow trends for acceptance even though the lifespan of a trend is a month or so. Outside opinions are always irrelevant and in the long run you’ll be happier if you spend life living by your own rules.
Recommendation on how/when to listen: When you’re feeling down about yourself and believe that you should be what others have said.
Life loves to throw lessons left, right and centre and it’s nothing like school. If you miss a lesson in school then the chances are you’ll have to catch up in your own time or the teacher will explain it to you in such a way that the lesson appears simpler than it actually is. Life however is a bitch. I’m grateful for its bitchiness mostly because when you miss a lesson that life tries to teach you, the lesson comes back at another time and it always seems to be more forward and harsher.
One of the biggest lessons that life has to offer is to do you a.k.a. fuck the world or accept what you are. Life seems to stress this lesson, which is good when you’re trying to find yourself as an individual. It’s really hard to be you because when you do something that you’re completely comfortable with, there will always be somebody judging and it makes you ashamed to be yourself because acceptance is such a high priority in society.
Acceptance is very over rated in my opinion. Unless you’re accepting yourself then it’s just fine. Life can and will show you what happens when you don’t accept yourself and it’s always negative, even if you deny that it’s not negative other people around you will see the negative effects.
Anybody who’s ever said fuck the world has definitely been through some shit and knows what they’re talking about.